jump right in
recently i reworked my blog. it definitely fits the wedding images but i just don’t know where we fit in here anymore. our life.
i’ve read more information online about blogs, and what you should be posting, and writing about than i ever could possibly need to know. it’s enough to make your head spin. so much advice on how to market for weddings and how to reach the kind of clients who are having the right kind of weddings. the right kind? something about the idea of that just doesn’t ring true with me. don’t get me wrong. i love style, details, creativity, and inspiring things and it’s all part of it, but having a blog that shows only that, seems less than truthful to me. there is more to weddings than that. there is more to us than that. details can personalise your wedding, but they don’t make a wedding. people do.
when i started this blog, i didn’t know exactly who would read it. five years ago i was just being completely myself, writing for myself, posting photos that I wanted to remember. but sometimes you get such a head full of information and business advice that it just leaves you confused. it leaves you feeling like a watered down version of yourself. i’m torn between having a blog full beautiful, ideal pictures or the real everyday stuff. the moments we live in. i don’t really want to separate it. but i’ve been posting less of our personal stuff because it isn’t always beautiful, the light isn’t always perfect and to be honest, i’m afraid it’s not the right fit. maybe i’ve been spending too much time on pinterest and i’m starting to think life actually looks like that for everyone else. i’m so tired of fretting about being judged and not making the grade. it’s making me want to run from the internet.
well, i’ve decided to stop worrying about it. i don’t want to separate it. this is a business but it’s life too. beautiful and real, and sometimes all at the same time. and sometimes chaotic and messy. the kids aren’t always wearing the right thing, and with two cats and a dog, the house could be doing with the extreme makeover team . our weddings and our lives aren’t just about being pretty, they’re about being real and true to yourself. and if you don’t like a photo, that’s ok too. it’s ok that we don’t all like the same things as everyone else all of the time.
and there is so much more before and after the wedding that matters. like being married, having kids, letting go of some of the control, and having ‘jumping on the bed’ moments.
i’m going to keep sharing. that feels right.